This Is What A Woman Wants

...Or at least this is what I want. 

All a woman wants is a guy who will listen and not try to fix things, occasionally. 

The reason why women go to their woman best friend when there is a problem is because that friend will listen and.... Well that's it. And often that is all that is needed. Just a listening ear to hear about all that is troubling at the moment. 

Just because we have problems in our lives doesn't mean we want or need all of them fixed. One problem that men have is that when they hear that something is broken (literally or metaphorically) they instantly feel the need to fix it. Which is fine in some cases, but not in all cases. Emotional problems can't always be fixed. Sometimes they just need to be let out. Guys aren't much of talkers. That is fine. But we women need someone who will just listen and then the problem will be fixed. 

For example, I have an issue with my birthday this year. I won't be able to celebrate it on my actual birthday because my brother has decided to get married on that day. So I'll be spending the anniversary of the day I was born celebrating my brother and his new wife. SIDE NOTE: I am happy that my brother has found someone who will put up with him and makes him happy. I just wish they had picked a different day. That is MY day. Anyway, back to my story. When I found out that information, all I wanted to do was complain and rant about it to someone who would listen. All FATMAN! wanted to do was fix it, but his way of fixing it wasn't exactly helpful. Yes, doing the things that he suggested is probably what I should have done but it's not what I needed. I simply needed someone to just hear me out and not try to help. So I went to by best friend, EEEEEEE!!!, and just let it all out. And because she didn't try to fix it, she just listened, I felt soooo much better afterwards and I am now a little more okay with what's going on. 

Guys, take it from me, listen and feel out the situation before offering up ways to "fix" the issue. If you aren't sure what to do, it's okay to ask "Do you want me to fix this?" or "What can I do to help you?"

Ladies, have patience with the guys. I know it's easier said than done sometimes (I've been there and done that) but it truly does help. Also, be clear about your needs.