Vacation! Whoo hoo!

For the first time since before giving birth to my beautiful Squid, I got a vacation. FATMAN! and I got away for a few nights to reconnect and not have the distraction nor interruption of having to take care of the Squid. I am extremely grateful to my parents for allowing us the vacation that we were very much in need of. 

We honestly didn't do a lot on our vacation. We did a bit of shopping that we can't do at home and relaxed in the hotel room and didn't worry about a thing. We also went to my best friend's wedding that was the same weekend. We didn't do much, but what we did do was spend time together. 

FATMAN! works long hours during the day. When he gets home, all I want is a break from the Squid and have some time to myself. Or on the days when he works later, as soon as he gets home it's bath and bedtime for Squid and then we only have about an hour until we go to bed. We really only get time together on the weekends (when he doesn't work) and we spend that time running errands and take care of Squid. So, we don't get very much time together and FATMAN! and Squid don't get very much time together, either. Also, because of the long hours that FATMAN! works, when we do have time together, we use it to discuss important things... which sometimes leads to bickering. As of late, we have not been in sync as often as we were when we were first married.

Don't get me wrong. I am extremely grateful for FATMAN!'s job and his willingness to work. And I am enjoying being a stay at home mom. But I miss being a great wife. It's hard having to split my time and attention between two boys who need me to survive. I miss having some time to work on my projects. There's always naptime, but I try my best to use that time to work on chores (which, I'll admit, I'm not the best at it) or on other important things that need my attention. Then when FATMAN! comes home, he needs my attention too or I hand Squid off to him while I work on something that needs immediate help. I hardly get any time to myself. (Yes, I know that's what I signed up for when I became a mom.)

This vacation was exactly what I needed. I needed some time with my FATMAN! and to relax and to not worry about anything other than the wedding (because I was a part of it). I was able to take some to focus on just one thing and it was the best thing that could have happened to my marriage. I was able to focus on FATMAN! and what he needed from me and he was able to focus on me. All we needed was each other. 

And we couldn't have ended it any better. All three of us, my mom, and my brother went to the newly remodeled aquarium. It was amazing! And the Squid absolutely loved the fish! It was so cute seeing his face light up and hear him "ooh" with each new exhibit. It truly was the best way to ended a much needed, great vacation. 

I highly recommend taking a vacation occasionally just to reconnect with yourself, your significant other, life, and/or your sanity. Vacations are good.