Love is the Key

This isn't a complaint. It's just some thoughts I have had on a topic that FATMAN! and I have talked about a lot. 

There's the saying, "You only hurt the ones you love." 

Why is that?

FATMAN! and I have had a conversation about this quite often. I think the answer is simple: You only hurt the ones you love because they care. The people you don't love, and therefore they don't love you, don't care because they don't care about you or what you do or say. 

I think it truly is that simple. 

So then, why do we hurt the ones we love? Why is it that we are hurting others? A lot of the time it's completely unintentional. It's saying or doing the wrong thing without realizing that it may be offensive. And at those times there's nothing you can do except to apologize afterwards. But what about when you purposefully hurt those you love? What happens then?

I have known of families who were divided because of at least one person who stuck their nose where it shouldn't have been and purposefully hurt their family. I would be lying if I said I have never done that. But what has happened to those families? They never see each other. They never get together and share stories, meals, laughter, or time together. Cousins never meet each other. Aunts and uncles never meet nieces and nephews. Grandparents only see certain grandchildren at certain times. But the biggest thing that happens is that there is no love being shared in the family. 

Love is the key. This is my mother-in-law's life motto (more or less) and FATMAN! has had many conversations with her about this phrase. There are many, many meanings behind the phrase and I'm sure that there are more to be discovered in the future. But the bottom line is Love is the key! To everything! Especially family. Without love, there is no family. Just people who carry the same blood who don't care about each other. Love is what truly ties a family together. 

This holiday season, let's please remember our families and how much we are grateful for and love them. I know I have said and done some nasty things in the past to my family members, but I truly am grateful for and love each and every one of my family members. I am not perfect and I am making my amends. But if there is one thing that I want my family to know is that I love them and am always thinking of them.